Why you should not maintain contact with your ex!
Even if you don’t really love your ex anymore or even if you are the one who have gone, a separation always hurts, it is only because you had together some common habits and you had deep feelings for each other. However, once the decision of separation has been taken, it is useless to go back. You are only required to go back if you have children involved as it is important that you remain mutual for the sake of your kids. If you would like to learn more about what to do next, don’t hesitate to contact family lawyers in your area for further help and support. If you do not agree with that, read carefully the following 7 arguments…
1 A love story always ends for a good reason
He left you because he thought that you were too possessive.You left him because you thought that he wasn’t ambitious enough.We always leave a person for a reason. And if you try to get back with him a few months later, there is little chances that he or she will change. People change, but basically, they often remain the same!
2 Seeing your ex again means that you are trying to fall in love with feelings of the past
You have finally decided to see him again. His smile still attracts you as much as before, he’s nice and funny. You know all this already and you have the feeling of falling in love again. But remember how you felt when the love story ended. In fact, these are your old emotions that came to the surface again. Do not be fooled.
3 Seeing your ex again, a default choice
For months you were clubbing every night, without being able to have fun. The guys / girls you meet are all boring and uninteresting. You think about your ex and about the good times you had with him and you decide then to send him a message. Problem: in general, you do this only out of spite, not by true love. It is most likely that it works again a few days before he disappoint you again. And the separation will be painful.
4 She/he is certainly not at the same stage of healing as you
There are two scenarios, and both are bad: Your ex is totally depressed and he will jump on you (metaphorically) at the first text message that you send him. You’re going back together just because you are both hurt, and when you will get better, you will start looking for problems until you break up again.
Or he is enjoying life without you and your text will sound hollow. You will never have an answer and you will feel more useless than before. Very Harsh!
5 The routine may come back strong in your relationship
Getting back with your ex is falling rapidly into the same causes, the same causes which often resulted in the separation the first time.The same favorite restaurant, the same discussions about the same friend (s), the same gestures, the same ways of making love. The feelings are gone; this new attempt will not go further than the first one.
6 Do not think only about your ex and forget that there are thousands of fish in the ocean
The time you spend thinking about your ex, to flirt with your ex, to re-date your ex, to have sex with him is so long that you could have spent it with a whole new person. It is in that time that you can find maybe the man or woman of your life!
7 Your entourage may not understand you and maybe really disappointed
Obviously, you do not live your life according to what those around you think, that’s totally right. But often parents and close siblings have a more global and objective vision of our problems than ourselves. If they think you are someone who doesn’t know what to do because you left your ex and you want to go back to him now, how can you say that they are wrong?