Tips on how can new fathers participate in raising and befriending the newborn
Parenthood is perhaps the most amazing adventure of one’s life. This phase of life is full of excitement, delights, disasters, and hilariously beautiful happenings. For successful parenting, it is necessary for the couple to stand side by side with each other. With the shift of the focus in life, new fathers find it difficult to cope with the stinky diapers and cranky babies and mothers.
But let us not look at it in that way. Your soul mate has just turned into a mother, and you are experiencing the thrills of fatherhood. Isn’t it exciting to have the two completely new members in your life? This is the time to bond with the new members and make your marriage stronger.
There will be times when you feel mad and crazy, yet with a few tips and tricks, these moments can be turned into the most beautiful moments of your life. Believe me, you are definitely going to thank us for this article here.
1 Be patient – Rest will be Wonderful
Being supportive, communicative, and patient is the ultimate need of time. While giving birth, a woman goes through endless traumas and she needs her partner to be at her side every single moment. So, if you are not a good listener, then this is the time to bring a change in your habits. Listen to what she has to say and be available to her and tend to your baby whenever they need you.
This is the time to show her that you are a responsible man. Moreover, it is very easy to pamper women, the love of your life will be happy and satisfied with the little things that you do for her. And, believe me, women keep a count of these things, and a little miss can turn her violent.
So, beg, borrow or steal just find time for her and the baby, and you are never going to regret this time.
2 Win Trust with Eye Contact
Newborns are already connected to the mothers, but fathers need to work on it a bit. The first bond that you can establish with the baby is through eye contacts.
Children start making eye contact just after 4 weeks of birth, and this marks the proper growth of the baby. Within no time, they will recognize you and will follow you everywhere with their tiny, bright eyes.
However, the time at which the baby starts making eye contact may vary. The experience of the first gaze of your baby will be truly heartwarming and you will love to click and capture the moments. Till the time they start making proper eye contact, stay close to them and smile whenever possible. You never know, one day you might just get the sweetest surprise smile in return.
3 Changing Diapers – It’s Not That Tough!
Parenthood is all about teamwork and for grabbing the best father trophy, you need to put your hands on the diapers also. You don’t have to worry; there is nothing unusual in changing diapers. It is just a bunch of rumors that had been spread by some lazy fathers. What’s the big deal man? That’s your baby and you have to take care of him anyhow.
Even the researches show that those men who help with the diapers of the kids are leading a successful married life, not to mention the abundance of affection you are winning from your kid. So, you have to learn the art of diapering. And, if you still feel it to be stinky and unbearable, then cover your nose with a mask and continue with the task. This way you can bond up with the baby as well as the mother. Yeah, the smell is all that is to be avoided in order to fight those 2 minutes, rest is fine!
4 Experience it Alone
You need to learn to deal with the baby alone. For this, take proper tips on how to feed the baby? How to make him sleep? What medicines he takes? And the most important, what to do when he starts crying? Learn all these things and stay with the baby alone – it should be just the two of you. This will help you configure your bond with the newborn.
I know it doesn’t sound as easy, but trust me, the best bonding happens when both of you find each other helpless and realize that it’s only you who can rule the moment. Baby will give in and try to adjust to your ways while you too will understand the ordeal a mum has to go through when you are away in office. This will not just make both of you buddies but also make you respect your wife more for her selfless and arduous role as a mother and wife.
If you are planning to just spend an hour in another room with your kid to practice this, then my friend, you are never going to succeed. Your kid is not as tiny and dumb as he/she looks. Kids have that sixth sense that makes them realize the presence of their mothers. Remember that till the time the mother is around, babies consider her to be the person in charge. So, to make the baby concentrate on you, you need to be alone with the little one.
Moreover, mothers also need to understand that their babies are fine with their fathers. Studies also show that greater the bond between the child and father, the smarter the kid grows to be.
5 Play Time with Family
Parenthood does not bar you from living your normal life. In fact, it gives you the opportunity to enjoy life with a fun element along with your newborn baby. So, this is an excellent time to revel and rejoice and the fact is that, it is easier to go out with small babies, in comparison to the toddlers. Little babies won’t act up smart or run around, they will simply lie down peacefully and gaze around while you get down to some lovey dovey talks with your wife.
Once the mother of your little ones is ok for outing, take your family on a small trip. By doing this, you two will be able to spend some quality time together and the baby will get a chance to indulge with the new place and observe the nature and habitat.
6 Love Is the Need
Love your wife even more now, not only because she gave birth to your baby, but you should love her for countless moments that she gave you without saying anything. You can show your love to her in many ways like complementing her, mentioning to her that she looks amazing and beautiful, even though she has gained a lot of weight.
A happy wife will definitely make for a happy mum and will work towards constructing a happy family.
Try to spend time with her by either watching a movie together or going for a short walk. Make her favorite snacks while she is breastfeeding or give her a massage to make her feel relaxed. A little bit of care can make your relations amazingly beautiful. Your kid will be watching all that you are doing for his mother and will thank you through some gestures that will be priceless. Shower all the love that you can on your baby and your wife, and you will see how beautiful life is, how beautiful parenthood is.
Along with experiencing the thrills of being a new father, this is the best time to bond up with each other. So, steal some time out of work and enjoy the great family time.