Sometimes the Third Person in a Relationship Can Be a Blessing
Most often the third person is perceived as a threat in a committed relationship between two people. But what is interesting to note is that unless gaps are visible in a relationship, the third person cannot enter. Sometimes, it is this third person that saves the primary relationship from deteriorating further. Let us see how.
1 When Distance Grows within a Relationship
In a relationship, frictions are bound to occur. It becomes important to nip the discord at an early stage as if it is left to grow, it can create distance in the relationship. Couples that do not notice gaps and signs of growing apart tend to invite a third person unknowingly and sometimes willingly too.
2 When Gaps in a Relationship Become Visible to Others
When a couple begins to live in disharmony, they create gaps for a third person to enter their field. This third person may at first seem like an intruder but what the couple fails to understand is that without invitation a third person cannot make a foray. In fact people that secretly admire others, may wait for the relationship to bear cracks for them to enter. Gaps in communication and stonewalling lead to disharmony which invites the third person.
3 When a Third Person Enters the Scene
So, when this third person senses the gaps, he plans for a grand entry into the primary couple’s life. When the couple in question is under stress and living in disharmony, they become vulnerable in their outlook towards others. This is just the opportunity the third person awaits and grabs the chance. The initial stage is about allowing this person into their life willingly. When this happens, life seems rosy for the partner that has given this permission. For a while, they live on a constant high and the kick this provides might make them more amicable towards their primary partner. Their attitude may soften as the parallel relationship progresses.
4 When the Parallel Relationship Falls Part
When a third person enters a committed relationship, the chances are that it may most often be a short time liaison. Of course, there are exceptions too. If the third person comes from a committed relationship himself, he may most probably choose to go back once the excitement fades in the parallel relationship. Breakups of any kind are hard to handle. The only way to deal with them is to accept the situation, feel the pain, release it and move on. This might take some time depending on the emotional strength of the people concerned.
5 Sometimes, Parallel Relationships Fix Doomed Primary Relationships after they Exit
It is in parallel relationships that distant partners find excitement and a constant high. They suddenly begin to take pains to wear good clothes, look good, speak well and in general put forth a happy and confident image in front of the third person. When this continues for some time, it boosts their self-image and the happiness scale tips in their favour. When this relationship breaks, it becomes hard to get over the person as this would have done them a world of good in terms of their happiness. When this is understood and the affected partner chooses to continue taking care of self-grooming and other qualities, the primary partner that is distant might begin to look at the other partner with brand new eyes. Who is not attracted to a happy bubbly confident person? Both partners may then strive to give their relationship a chance and go all out to safeguard it. This may rekindle the lost passion and bring back the zing in their relationship that would have worn off over time.
A third person may end up saving the primary relationship unknowingly. It is all about perceptions, improvements and soul connections. When you look at the positive side of a life-changing situation, you end up with more strength. What is your view? Have you gone through this situation in your life?