Science Reveals The Truth About How You Can Get Over A Break Up In 3 Easy Ways
6The first method
The first method of getting over someone is already universally known. When we go through a break up what are the first thoughts that come into our minds when we think about our partner? All the happy moments and good times. We get stuck on a loop of all the good memories which is why we take so long to move on. Here is what you really need to do.
7Negative reappraisal of the ex-partner
In this method, we think of all the negative things our partners did that we did not like. This way we can cloud all the happy memories and feel content that we split up from them. This way we can move on with our life faster and easier. But, as with anything, there is a downside to this. We need to stay in control of our feelings.
8What happens when we’re not in control?
Going through a break up is a very emotional time and we feel hurt, insecure and sometimes get overwhelmed by the fact that we lost the person we loved for a long time. During this time bring up negative thoughts about them might lead to unnecessary situations so we need to control ourselves. If we let our emotions get the best of us we might just end up doing something we might regret.
9The second method
The second method focused on getting the participants to move on from their partners. To perform this, participants were asked to repeat statements like “It’s ok to love someone I’m no longer with”. This gave them closure while it did not affect the way they thought about their ex. This just gave them the chance to move on and not be affected by what their ex was doing.
10How does this work?
This method works as the person who is grieving is allowed to still have feelings for their ex while being aware that their ex no longer is in their life. Over time they realize that they’re wasting their time and energy over someone who left a long time ago. They realize what they’re doing is not helping them and this allows them to move on.