The relationship between a mother and a child during the various phases of life
Recently, I came across a tiny tale, which warmed my heart because it expressed the mother-child relationship in its truest and purest form. The story went something like this:
- A little boy and his mother were crossing a river…
- Mother: Please hold my hand.
- Son: No Mom, You hold my hand.
- Mother: What’s the difference?
Son: If I hold your hand and something happens to me… chances are that I may let your hand go but if you hold my hand… I know for sure, you will never let my hand go.
Such is the bond between a mother and a child! A mother will just do anything and everything in her capacity to protect her child. The bond between a mother and her child starts even before the child is born and it just grows stronger with age. Here we are about to discuss the intricacies of a mother-child relationship during the different phases of life. Hop on to the next page to see how the journey starts.
The relationship between a mother and a child starts right during pregnancy. This lifelong bond starts during those precious nine months when a mother carries her baby in the womb. She can feel the baby and so can the baby.
Expectant mothers obviously give nourishment to the baby, talk to their baby, feel their movement inside the womb and give a sense of security, trust and love to their unborn baby. This is from where the eternal love starts.
Just as the baby enters this world, the mother feels a surge of love and attachment and the love for the bundle of joy only increases. A mother rocks the baby gently, sings and talks to him, holds the baby close to her body. She takes care of the needs of the baby, above her needs. She actually forgets about herself, because her baby is her world and though she feels tired as she is not getting any rest, this is the phase in which a smile and touch of the baby melts her. There is really nothing as precious as the baby for her.
Now, that the baby is all set to speak and walk and run, the mother is literally on her feet the whole day. She serves as her first teacher, trying to teach her how to walk, how to speak, how to do things and the role of being teacher actually never ends. There is no one in this world who can teach you and advice you like your mother does as she has that unconditional love which will only want your happiness.
4 Schooling Years
This is a very crucial stage, where the child needs to be away from the family so that she mingles with the world. Many children experience a separation anxiety when they go to school for the first time and the cries of “Mommy Don’t Go”, are difficult to handle for the mother. But then, she has endured all the pains for your safety and happiness and she faces this too. Trust me; nothing is as joyful as a big bear hug a mother gets from her child when she gets back.The mother patiently teaches the child to read, write and lives her childhood once again during all these years.
Now this one can be a problematic phase and more often than not, issues arise between a mother and a child. I can also remember having these talks which sometimes turned into a quarrel just because I did not understand why my mother would say no to something I wanted so badly. But now that I am an adult and my mom is my best friend, I can understand her more than ever. I now know that she knew I would get heartbroken by so many things and she was just trying to protect me during that phase and I can say she did a fab job because even though she ensured my safety, she never stopped me from following my heart. We as kids, feel that our freedom is being curtailed by the discipline but we need to understand that our moms would never want us to get hurt and that’s all!
This is I feel is the most important phase in the relationship of a mother and child. A mother has done all that she could do to ensure that her child becomes a loving, caring, independent and a trustworthy human.And if she has done her job well, she will be proud of her kids and herself. She is now going to get old, and you as a child would soon be at a place where she was several years back. She took care of every need of yours and now is the time that you have to repay it back. Love her for who is, care for her as you are the only one she can trust enough. It hurts me to the core, when I see children abandoning their parents at old age homes. On this Mother’s Day, can we see all the mothers just happy with their kids? A mother’s heart is a paradise, if you have done something wrong with her, apologize to her and she would hug you instantly. Celebrate this day and everyday loving the person who is the reason of your existence.
On a more positive note, let’s just all of us be the best kid to our mother and bring a smile on her face.
Happy Mother’s Day… to all the beautiful mothers of the world! You are the best and will remain the best till eternity.