Reasons Why Even A Long-Term Relationship Can End After Marriage
Marriage is a very sacred bond which even today in every culture is respected greatly. Love is something that happens naturally and when you fall for that special someone you want them to be yours for as long as you live. This is where marriage comes in.
For a very long time, people have believed that the secret to a long and strong marriage is being honest and having a strong relationship beforehand. This prepares the couple for married life but does it really? Unfortunately no! A marriage today can only last if the couple wants it to and here are the reasons why.
1All the affection was at the beginning
Everyone knows that too much of something isn’t always good. The same applies to love and affection and showing them. A study was published by the ‘Journal of Personality and Social Psychology’. According to this study, if a couple shows too much love at the beginning of their relationship, things become boring and stagnant by the time they get married.
2Why does this happen?
We have all known couples that were very happy and bubbly when they were dating but things fizzled out when they got married. When you do everything exciting at the start, there is nothing left for later. Surprises don’t surprise them, efforts go unnoticed, and eventually, you wonder if they even like you anymore. In such situations, both or either spouse wants attention and they may find someone else.
3Needs change over time
Everyone evolves and grows as time passes and this may affect a relationship. When people are young and dating, they have different needs. They both just want to have fun and young people often think they are in love. However, marriage is hard work. Sometimes marriage requires you to look beyond yourself and do something for your partner. Marriages often break because the couple cannot balance their changing needs.
4Your needs or your partner’s?
The answer is a balance. Yes, you should focus on your own needs, but don’t become selfish. Pay attention to what your partner needs as well. If you feel you cannot fulfill their needs then tell them and end the marriage. However, don’t just do what your partner wants. Focus on what you want too. If you truly love each other you will be able to balance your needs and their needs.
5The best example
The best couple demonstrating the fact that people can be in a relationship for a long time and still break up after getting married is Miley Cyrus and Liam Hemsworth. The two met as teenagers and have been on and off for almost a decade. In 2016 they got engaged and broke it off. Finally, in December 2018, they tied the knot. It came as a shock when they announced their divorce in August 2019.