Psychologists Explain 7 Reasons Why a Late Marriage Makes You Happier Than an Early One
Not many in the world can say they aren’t looking for love. Humans were created for companionship and both men and women are attracted to each other by evolution and genetics, it’s perfectly natural. Combined with the emotional need for one another, it is the entire physical and emotional bond and the desire to spend one’s life with someone that constitutes love but the question is when is the right time to start to live with someone or get married? Should one get married just a few months after courtship or wait a few years. Psychologists have the answer by stating 7 important factors that come onto play here and determine what can be an outcome and the ideal time to do so.
1 Love helps with self-development
If you don’t love yourself, you can’t hope to love another. Love doesn’t always mean loving another constantly to the point of losing yourself and forgetting about yourself, your looks, your emotional needs as a person. Mature people keep working on themselves and love gives them reasons and strength to do so.
Mature people learn to compromise
The above being said, mature people consider themselves important as well as the relationship. They don’t hesitate to compromise or change their opinions if they feel yours is a better one. They acknowledge their faults and can be responsive and attentive to a partner. When two loving people behave in this fashion, it lays the groundwork for a long and prosperous relationship. Such an attitude comes from a relationship that grows over the years and not one that has just begun because once married too soon, there is more expectation rather than giving in the relationship.
If a partner starts saying things like you should accept them the way they are and wants you to put up with their negative side and bad habits, such a relationship will be a strained one and make either partner a stranger to the other.
2First of all, to love means to give
A self-sustained person won’t want to keep draining partner for their emotional needs. In a longer relationship when people respect each other as individuals, a self-sustaining partner derives other forms of inspiration and will not try to use their partner’s emotions or individuality to fulfill the emptiness within their souls.
Infantile love may be one sided
Immature people on the other hand just want love and more love. They take it for granted that they are the centre of their partner’s world and they are doing a favor to a partner by allowing them to love them totally without giving back anything in return. Psychologist Morgan Peck I his book the road less travelled” describes such a painful addiction as a type of anti-love. A partner who is always looking for their own emotional needs and gets what they want may just about leave you in the lurch when it comes to your own needs or when you undergo problems.