How to Properly Screen Possible Dates on Social Media
Using social media for dating is something that’s natural for a lot of people. However, many make the mistake of being too trusting or open with people they meet online, which can lead to serious consequences. By properly screening people, you could save yourself a lot of time and trouble, and will also be able to reduce the risks associated with meeting people you’ve never met. Let’s take a look at a few things you can do to properly screen people when dating online.
1Do Your Research
The first thing you should do before you even think of meeting someone is run a background check on them. You can always use Google to see what pops up, but if you really want to know who you’re dealing with, you have to bring in the big guns.
You could use a service like Public Records Reviews to check out the public records of anyone you were thinking of dating. These services will allow you to see if the person had any prior convictions or upcoming court dates. Or you could find out that the person is not using their real identity, which could be a major red flag.
2Protect Your Phone
You also want to protect your phone from anyone who would like to abuse it later on. Thankfully, there are tons of things that you can do. One of them is to use a Google voice number. It’s completely free, and you’ll get an alternate number that you can send and receive text messages with, make calls, and synchronize across your devices. This prevents anyone from blowing up your phone if you don’t get back to them or reject them.
3Meet them Somewhere Public
The best way to get a feel for a person is to actually meet them face to face. You first have to make sure that you get yourself to the meeting safely, and that you pick a public space. You also have to make sure that you let your friends or family know where you’ll be meeting your date, and notify them of any change of plan.
Meeting in a public place like a restaurant, skating rink, or anywhere there’s a good crowd will provide an extra layer of security. It will also allow you to get a deeper look into their personality. Some people change completely when they’re in public, and some people might not be able to deal with someone who’s overly brash, or too reserved. So, make sure that you put them to the test, and see if you’re compatible from a social standpoint.
Having a few drinks can be a good way to get yourself and your date out of their shell, but it can be tricky. There’s no secret that alcohol affects judgment, and you might think that both of you have chemistry when it’s really the beer talking. Being drunk will also put you in danger and will make it harder for you to get out of bad situations. This is why we strongly suggest you pick something like a cafe or a regular dinner as a first date.
5Ask for a Second Opinion
Most people usually have a friend or group of friends that is always right. You also probably have a hater in your life who’s suspicious of everyone or thinks nobody is good enough for you. You should get the opinion from those whose judgment you respect on anyone you were thinking of dating. In some cases, they might spot some red flags you didn’t notice or a pattern you might be falling for again and again. This could help you reconsider the person, and do some more probing before you decide to actually meet them.
6Ask the Right Questions
You should also have a clear set of questions to ask them. This could be during the video chat we talked about earlier or on your first date. There are questions that will allow you to get a deeper understanding of who they are and if you can actually work together.
One of the most important things is knowing how they’re getting along with their previous ex. Ideally, you want a clean break, and if there’s a relationship, you want it to be convivial without being too close. You also want to ask if they’ve ever been in a relationship, and what was their longest one. Serial daters are a no-no, and those coming from a tough breakup after a lifelong relationship might need some mending before they can be dating material again. However, it’s still up to you if you want to take up the challenge.
Social media can be convenient, and (when used properly) relatively safe way to meet people. Make sure that you follow these tips to the letter, and try to learn as much as you can about the person before you even meet them.