10 Common Mistakes Made By Most Parents That Affect and Ruin A Child’s Life after Divorce
3You try to be the favorite parent
This is almost like bribery to get what you want. You can harm your child emotionally by trying to show up the other parent. By allowing your child to do the things the other parent doesn’t allow or going lax on discipline is only spoiling a child to grow up into an equally spoiled adult. Your child will slowly start doing whatever they feel like and start disobeying you too.
There should be mutual affection and agreement for the child
There should be a mutual agreement between partners about how a child should be brought up and what disciplinary rules need to be in force at both homes. There is no need to keep telling the child that you may have done more than the other parent.
4Your child feels guilty
In a divorce a child usually feels guilty for the parent’s separation and experiences stress because of a drastic change in their happy home. This is the worst thing for them to feel as if they are too blame. It is important to let the child know they had nothing to do with the situation and bad deeds don’t lead to divorce so they shouldn’t feel guilty. Let them know how much you love them.
5You feel guilty
You should never show that your guilty and feel the need to explain to the child that it inst your fault. Unpleasant things happen in life and not every time does life go the way we want it to. Divorce is one such problem event. By blaming yourself, you end up playing the role of a guilty parent which can affect your child. They may start using this against you as they grow older and will soon be spoiled and want everything using this as blackmail. They may start blaming you for their misfortunes.
6You are negative about your partner
When being taught not to take the blame yourself, you shouldn’t also blame your partner and never tell your child about your partner’s faults, misdeeds and mistakes of your spouse. Don’t also speak badly about them. By speaking badly about your partner, it can be internalized by them. Their attitude will also changed towards their other parent. Remember you both are the child’s parents and you both love the child in spite of the problems.