12 Signs That Show Your Partner Might Be Destroying Your Self-Esteem
5 Expressing conditional love
Waking up every day and trying to do everything to earn your partner’s love and approval will only make you feel as if you aren’t good enough for them. This kind of behavior in a relationship is extremely unhealthy. It’s even worse if your partner doesn’t act like a loving person towards you. A relationship in which you have to constantly perform to be loved is not worth keeping. You deserve to be loved unconditionally for who you are and not for what you can do.
6 They question your decisions
Your partner might start objecting to the smallest things. Sometimes they do this because they are trying to be helpful. For instance, they might ask if your outfit is weather-appropriate like- “Are you sure your jacket is warm enough?” At times they can even be more persistent by using a bit of sarcasm in their tone like- “Babe, you definitely don’t want to change your job. It’s cool and I think a lot of people would love to work there.”
While this might seem sweet at first, you may soon realize that it probably is something else. Their constant doubts about your decisions can make you think that you are incapable of acting independently. This will inevitably kill your ability to make decisions for yourself.
7 They suddenly change their minds about things
Your partner suggests doing something fun together like going to watch a movie or to buy new furniture for the house, but then they suddenly change their minds and don’t give any explanation about the reason. This can make you really wonder what could have gone wrong, or why their words aren’t matching their actions. You then come to wonder if you were the cause and may be you have done or said something which probably might have upset them. You start doubting yourself and undermining your self-esteem.
8 They interrupt you whenever you are speaking
Interrupting someone while they are speaking is considered to be rude. If it’s your partner doing this to you, then maybe they don’t actually mean anything by it or that they are afraid of forgetting what they want to tell you, or perhaps they are just too excited. But, interrupting someone can make that person feel like you don’t consider what they are trying to say as important or you simply weren’t listening. When you feel like no one really cares about what you have to say, you soon will start feeling like there’s no point in you talking at all.