6 Pesky Psychological Habits That Can Make You Poor and Lonely
While overtly socializing isn’t expected of anyone, social connections are a good thing because maintaining relationships in your life is good for your mental and emotional health. But, there are complexities to this too. You shouldn’t be someone who is always too busy or putting in too much effort to try and build relationships with people as that might be taken as coming on too strongly. If you suddenly find yourself spending too much time or being occupied more with the business of others instead of your own life, or how others think of you, then its time you did
1You just can’t say no
When you find your to-do list featuring a long list of things you have to do for others, then there is something wrong. Your list has the tasks of someone else instead like purchasing stuff, consulting, lending and other things which are seriously wasting your time. If you stop and wonder what exactly all these people have ever done for you, there may not be an answer.
What you should do
Make yourself your top priority before thinking about others. If someone starts calling you a selfish person and an ingrate, then pay no heed because it’s most probably to manipulate your emotions into relenting into doing things for them. Don’t just blindly start doing things for people, stop and think first of they deserve your help or if your help is really benefiting them or not all the time.
2You’re looking for approval
You are insecure and never confident about yourself. This makes you always desire approval and acceptance from others whose opinion about you is more important than your own. You keep doing things that will fetch you compliments from your friends, colleagues, boss and relatives. Approval makes you feel good about yourself but if you don’t get the feedback you expect, then you feel as if your actions were bad and what you did was not regarded as anything of importance.
What you should do
Looking for approval from people; instead, spend more efforts to achieve your own goals. Try to develop yourself in your profession and improve yourself. Learn to accept yourself and take more care of your health, how you love and how you should be loved. Confidence is a healthy and faithful companion to many and when you start being confident, your need for approval and insecurities will vanish.