12 Seemingly Harmless Phrases That Echo into Your Child’s Future Harming Them More Than You Think
10 “You’ll manage somehow”
The phrase “you’ll manage somehow” can also be interpreted as “you want too much”. Saying something like this is almost literally telling your child that their dreams and desires are irrelevant or that they aren’t worth being fulfilled. This will only make your child stop abandon their dreams and aspirations because they will come to believe that they are never going to come true.
11 “These are your own problems and it’s you who needs to solve them”
Telling your kid that their problems are their own and that it’s them who needs to resolve everything on their own will only result in your kid growing up to have major insecurities and serious trust issues. While it’s good to allow your kid to deal with problems on their own at times, you should never let your kids deal with each and every single thing on their own. Parents should know that kids obviously lack life experience which is why they can’t, and even shouldn’t have to deal with some issues on their own.
12 “You ruin everything”
When doing something new, very few can manage to do it correctly on the first or second attempt. But many make mistakes and this should be completely understandable. To be able to do something perfectly, it requires experience, habit, and skill. So, if your child isn’t able to do something that you assigned them to do, don’t make them feel worthless when they fail to do it. Don’t make them feel incompetent and useless by saying stuff like “you ruin everything”. It’s not exactly the child’s fault because they have never attempted something like this ever before.
13 “Stay out of adult conversations”
By telling your kid to stay out of adult conversations, and that it is too early for them to join in on such conversations, you only destroy your kid’s self-esteem. Parents shouldn’t simply reprimand their children with such phrases when they speak. They should explain to their kids that while it is alright to voice their opinions at times, they should refrain from doing so when the adults are having a conversation among themselves, and which the kids aren’t a part of.
It’s wrong to simply silence them and tell them off. This action could cause them to grow up to be shy people who are always afraid to express their thoughts in the presence of adults like their bosses. This will hinder their development and progress in their career as well as in life.