Get people to like you by following these tips given by an FBI behaviour expert!
Meeting new people can usually be stressful and awkward. You will have to figure out so many things, ‘What to talk about?’, ‘How to keep a conversation going?’ Or the daunting question, ‘how to make a good impression?’ People skills are difficult. There is no perfect formula when it comes to people, but this is where Robin Dreeke comes to our rescue.
As an FBI behavior expert, Dreeke penned down few important things to follow that can get people to like you. Follow the suggestions below to ace at people skills and make new and interesting acquaintances.
1 Don’t Judge people
Judging comes very naturally to human beings; it is unfortunate, but true. The first and foremost thing to remember when meeting new people is to not judge what the other person is saying. Pay attention to what the other person is saying and if you don’t like it, ask them to explain how they came to form the opinion. Use kind phrases like ‘that’s an interesting way to look at it, would you please explain?’ This will make you seem as curious and not like you are judging.
2 Keep your ego at bay!
Usually when we meet new people, we tend to go on and on about our opinions and constantly feel to contradict or interrupt their views or opinions. Dreeke observed that when people experienced views that were contradictory to their beliefs, the part of brain that reasons and uses logic, went dormant and the part that is aggressive and hostile, becomes active. Don’t risk a new friendship because of your urge to satiate your ego.
3 Listen to what the other person has to say
One of the basic things you can do to get people to like you is by listening to them! Nobody likes to converse with a self-absorbent and obnoxious ‘me monster’. Next time when you meet someone, make sure you listen and react to what they are saying. Nod while they are talking; ask questions so they know that you are actually listening to them.
4 Put strangers at ease
Robin Dreeke elaborates on how it is very important to first make the other person comfortable. Start the conversation with ‘is it a good time to talk?’ and wait for a positive response. If you directly start talking to strangers, they can become defensive, skeptical and frankly uncomfortable. No one wants to sit next to some bizarre person who seems extremely curious, which will cause suspicion.
5 The Best question to ask people
All of us go through struggles that could wear us down and make us unsociable. The best question to ask someone would be ‘How was your week?’ or ‘What challenges did you face this week?’ This will make them relaxed and make them feel that you understand them, making it easier for them to be more open and frank about their opinions. If nothing else, this will ensure that the conversation is flowing and interesting. The question may seem bizarre to you, but research proves that it works.
6 Best body language will lead to good rapport
70% of our communication is comprised of gestures and body language. Hence, it is very important to maintain the best body language that shows you are interested in the conversation and which makes them feel comfortable.
Always start interactions with a smile; smile acts as a conversation starter and mellower. Make sure you keep your chin angle down that indicates you are not looking down at some one. While talking to someone, always place yourself in a side angle because going complete frontal on someone can either offend them or make them feel uncomfortable.
There is a lot more to effective conversation than just being yourself. When you are communicating with someone, their thought process, and their worldly views come into picture. Do not forget that you are not just communicating “to” someone but are actually communicating “with” someone and this will easily get people to like you. So, next time you meet someone, stay confident, keep yourself calm and apply the above tricks to get yourself a new acquaintance.