11 Struggles of being a gay in friend group
It is not easy as what you think when you are openly gay and you have lots of male friend. Some of them may not want to become classified as gay because of you, while others would be really accept you wholeheartedly. But, what could be the common struggles you can encounter when you are gay and is part of a male friend group? Check out the list below!
1 When you need to travel to a gay bar for once however your friends impose attending to it
You are very much interested to try out and go to a gay bar for at least once, but surely your male friends would not like the idea of it. So, what are you going to do now? Well, you can either persuade them to try it out or you will just sulk in the house and look for others that would probably go with you. That sucks right?
2 When they have tried to set you up with another gay that they don’t even know about
They just don’t want for you to be lonely and they would like for you to also have your forever partner, and so they will try to set you up with some of other gay people that they will encounter. They will do everything to work things out. Surely, they are going to try their very best to plan the dates, the meet ups and everything. They could be good on those things.
3 When they get and try to classify you as one of their gay friend
They would not even wish to disgrace you and so they are going to classify you as one of their gay friend and will be proud of it. Though, they would even ask you to help them out in the possible things they have to do in order to get their girls.
4 When your friends begin introducing you to other people, openly as gay
You think that they will be ashamed of telling other people that you are gay? Well, that’s a big no. They would be as openly proud of telling anyone and would introduce you as gay. So, if you would not want that people to know that you are actually gay, you can’t do anything about that anymore because your male friends would be surely glad to spill the beans on them.
5 When your friends frequently ask you if someone is gay or not
Many people would think that if you are gay, you can also determine if someone is gay or not, and surely your friends would believe on that as well. You have to prepare yourself as they are going to frequently ask you if someone they know is also gay or not.
6 When your friends frequently question yourself, if you are just being gay or you are really gay
There are times that you may just want to be a man, just like your old self which makes some of your friends wonder if you are really gay or just being gay. You surely know the difference of the two.
7 When your friends complain concerning on the ways you look at them and would even thought that you are starting to build up your feelings with any of them
The hardest part on this is to avoid falling with one of your male friends. All of them are straight and it will be totally obvious if you are going to start having feelings with them. So, make sure that you will keep everything friend zoned in order to avoid more problems and lost the friendship that you have.
8 When your friends would wonder if you will be the one that will “top” or “bottom” in your relationships
One of the most awkward questions that they are going to ask is if you are the top or the bottom in your relationship. For them, it is just about feeding their curiosity, but for you, you would think twice if this is really the right time to tell them the answer or not.
9 When your friends won’t stop asking you questions on how does gay sex totally happens because they are very curious
They surely know the answer but they love to tease you and would keep on asking how it usually happens. Well, there are really like that so you can’t do anything about it. After all, you already know how you are going to deal with them when it comes to this and it is still your decision if you will answer them in details or not.
10 When they perpetually expect you that you know all gay stars in the whole pop industry
Because you are gay, they will think that you are also a fan of the different gay stars in the pop industry. They will try to give you questions about the different stars that they are suspecting to be gay and they will expect that you are the one who is going to clarify and will let them know about their claims.
11 When your male friends will probably give you enough strength when someone judge you. That’s what friends are for!
Lastly, it comes with the biggest challenge of fighting other people that will judge you. Not everyone will accept you for who you are, and if you will be with your male friends, others might think a lot of negative things about you. But, rest assured that they will fight for you. They will try to protect you on those people and you will never be shy to be with them anymore! After all, that’s what friends are for!