10 Signs You’re Trying Too Hard To Please Others
8 You want to be praised by other people
People who want to be liked by others will always look for praise. Most of the time, it’s because of a low sense of self-worth. Approval makes you feel like you’re liked, needed, and valuable. You might think that other people care a lot about you and like you, which finally makes you feel good about yourself.
It’s time to stop looking for people to agree with you. Instead, look at what you’re doing to get praise from other people. This can include posting a lot on social media or calling your family often to talk about what you’ve been up to. Once you know what it is, you can slowly stop doing it.
9 You feel bad about everything and apologize for it, even when it’s not necessary
If something doesn’t go as planned, the first thing you say is, “I’m sorry!” You always try to take the blame and deal with the consequences, no matter what happens. You do this because you want to be nice and polite, but in the end, it hurts your self-esteem and can become a habit.
Pay attention to what you do, say, and feel, and try to figure out why and when you start to apologize. Pay attention to who you do this with as well. You don’t need to give extra explanations or blame in many situations, so you can easily skip this.
10 You’d rather give than get, even if it means giving up your own comfort
When you try to please people all the time, you may find yourself making sacrifices for their sake every day. For instance, you stay in a bad relationship where you give more than you get back. You might hope that other people will notice and appreciate it, but most of the time, people get used to how you make their lives easier, and you end up with nothing for yourself.
Don’t try to be people pleaser and think about what’s most important to you, not what other people think is important. You can also set a time limit for when you won’t be able to help anyone else. For example, on Tuesday and Thursday nights. This way, you can make sure you have time for your own interests and activities.