12 Ways We Ruin Our Reputation Without Even Realizing It
Questions like these are viewed as emotional blackmail. They tend to make people confirm what they have already spoken. Asking such questions can annoy the person who it’s directed to, even though they don’t really notice it. It would be wise to watch what you are saying and use something more appropriate in place of- “Seriously?”
Sometimes when talking to your friends or colleagues you might utter some words which might seem harmless in your opinion, but in reality, will only devalue you in their eyes. Remember that your own self-esteem is at stake and it can take a hit. Don’t use words like “I’m dumb, fat, pig”, because this would do nothing but downgrade your own image.
7Disregarding your feelings
There are times when people don’t take their own feelings and emotions seriously. This makes them unwilling to open up to other people. However, if they just opened up and shared their problems with others, it can make them feel calmer and lighter inside. People who disregard their own emotions and choose not to talk about them make others believe that they are very strong which is why people think that there’s no need to take their feelings into account.
8Using phrases which people are already tired of
The people who you talk to may have already heard these word or phrases probably hundreds of times which is why these don’t exactly mean much to them any longer. On the contrary it may be irritating to hear the same thing coming from you. It can even seem like you only said it because you don’t know what else to say. It would be better to not say anything at all if you actually have nothing to say.
9Irrationally accusing people
It’s common for people to say many things in the middle of an argument. People need to think before they speak because some words once spoken can never be taken back. Remember to be specific and to always explain how you feel. But, if you doll out general accusations when you have nothing constructive to say, then it will only seem like you just want an argument.
10Using the word “usually” to cover for mistakes
People who often use the word “usually” actually do so to try and make their errors seem not so serious. Such excuses only make people more irritated and makes the person who uses them look pathetic. Instead of making up excuses, it would be better to apologize for your mistakes.
11Ignoring your own problems but talking about someone else’s
People have the right to choose whether to talk about their own problems or not. There are people who don’t like talking about their problems while there are others who are fine with talking about their problems. However, you shouldn’t always be the one who listens to everyone else’s problem without ever talking about your own. You will eventually grow tired of it while everyone else will only get used to you being a good listener.
12Ignoring your own wishes
A person who constantly ignores their own wishes and needs because of someone else’s problems or insecurities will only make other people ignore their wishes as well. If it doesn’t bother anyone and doesn’t cause a problem, you should respect your own wishes and do what you want to do.